5 things I learned about dating after my divorce 1. Dating is fun when you believe it’s fun. Meeting new people doesn’t have to feel like a job interview. Shift the energy. When you believe you will have fun. You will have fun. If you’re dreading the date, you won’t have a good time 2. Dating before you’re ready for a relationship is okay. It can actually help you rediscover parts of yourself you forgot. The trick is to use dating to learn about yourself and not get attached to anyone before you