I keep thinking, why can’t I just lower my standards? Or, why can’t I find others attractive when I know logically this person isn’t the only man on Earth?

DEAR ABBY: My husband retired a few months ago. I was a stay-at-home mom for most of our married life but have worked part time for several years. I always took care of all the household chores ...

I'm struggling with something that feels both silly and painful. I've developed intense feelings (maybe even "limerence") for a man I know, and no matter how hard I try, no one else seems to compare.